Six Break Up Warning Signs

By Marc Sandford

Before a storm hits, disaster strikes, or something that's just plain bad happens, there will always be signs of warning. It's very common to hear people say: "why didn't we listen to the warning signs". This is true of storms, political events, bridge collapses, and of couples breaking up.

Be warned, if you're subject to paranoia, please skip this article. You must bear in mind that the points discussed here refer to changes in your partners behavior that was absent in the past. Likewise, the more points that are true for your relationship the more likely a breakup is imminent.

1.) Are you quarreling all day long, 7 days a week? The odd dispute once in a while is perfectly ok. But chronic fighting is very bad.

Constant fighting and bickering over trivial things means that you don't want to face up to the real reason for your discontent. Is fear of a separation the only thing that holds you together? Or is it a different matter that's got to be faced immediately?

2.) Have you been bumped down to the very end of her priority list? This means that anyone or anything in her life gets her attention first before you. For example, she can never find room in her calendar to squeeze you in.

This is a very demeaning and painful situation to be stuck in. She has practically eliminated you from her life. Even though you haven't officially separated, you're pretty much there already.

3.) Are you finding that your very existence displeases her? Have her standards become impossible and she's always criticizing you about something? This means that she's building up a case to leave you and give you the blame for the breakup because you're not good enough.

4.) Notice any subtle changes in how the friends and family of your partner relate to you? Have they become more distant and seem uncomfortable around you? They're probably talking about your relationship among themselves and are siding with your partner.

5.) Is the affection and love that you give her not returned with equal enthusiasm. When you increase your contact with her, does she pull away from you? If this is your situation, a break up is in your future if nothing is done to fix the relationship.

6.) Has she lost enthusiasm for the favorite activities that you always did together? Perhaps she desires to do them alone or with a 'friend'. This signal is a warning of very deep problems.

Please note that the points made here refer only to behavior that's not normal for your partner. Many people have their quirks that may resemble some of the break signs. We're talking about a change in a persons behavior, not quirks which are a permanent part of their make up. You should also try to rule out other explanations for her behavior.

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