Relationship Advice for Men: What Sociologists Tell Us
Do men need advice when it comes to keeping their relationships healthy? Indeed they do. What is it that men who want long term, healthy relationships need to know? Sociologists give us some valuable insight.
Lesson number one: Women often say one thing, but their actions say something else. So watch a woman's actions. Her actions will tell you what she really wants. Yes, that sounds confusing. Let's illustrate the point by looking at the kind of man a woman chooses.
Listen to a woman tell you that the most important quality in a man is sensitivity, being understanding and a good listener. But then she chooses a man who dominates the conversation. Or she might say the the only important quality in a man is his sense of humor. But she only dates men with money.
That surely makes a man ask why a woman would say one thing, but act in an opposite way. The answer, my friends, is because there are subconscious motivators that get men and women together. And that is a huge part of the relationship advice men need to know.
The historical, biological reason for men and women to get together is to propagate the species. In other words, just because getting pregnant may be the last thing on her conscious mind, when she evaluates a man at the subconscious level, shes still looking for a good papa for her children. Is the good father someone who listens to her? Sociologists say no. It is someone who will provide for her children. Someone who has the confidence to bring home the bacon.
Sociologists teach us while a man can produce thousands of sperm on repeated occasions throughout his adult life, a woman only has about 400 chances of producing a baby. As a result, they are looking for a man who can provide longevity and stability for their babies. A man who tells a woman he is a lawyer and not a paralegal will have a better chance of landing her. That is because she perceives that a lawyer is a better provider for her future children. But having a good income is not enough. A woman needs to perceive that a man is generous with his resources and will provide for her children. That is why women place such a high value on gifts such as jewelry.
This is something men may not understand about the engagement ring. The engagement ring is not just a romantic gesture, it is an outward display that a man will provide for the woman and her children. Thus she wants a large purchase.
Further, even though modern humans make more money from their brains than their brawn, women are still programmed to think of strength equaling the ability to provide. Thats why, even when there is evidence to the contrary, the woman is hardwired to choose the lineman over the computer geek.
So, men, learn from what the sociologists have taught us. Consider what thousands of years of history has programmed into your woman. When you do that, you will know what she really wants. Then give it to her.
Lesson number one: Women often say one thing, but their actions say something else. So watch a woman's actions. Her actions will tell you what she really wants. Yes, that sounds confusing. Let's illustrate the point by looking at the kind of man a woman chooses.
Listen to a woman tell you that the most important quality in a man is sensitivity, being understanding and a good listener. But then she chooses a man who dominates the conversation. Or she might say the the only important quality in a man is his sense of humor. But she only dates men with money.
That surely makes a man ask why a woman would say one thing, but act in an opposite way. The answer, my friends, is because there are subconscious motivators that get men and women together. And that is a huge part of the relationship advice men need to know.
The historical, biological reason for men and women to get together is to propagate the species. In other words, just because getting pregnant may be the last thing on her conscious mind, when she evaluates a man at the subconscious level, shes still looking for a good papa for her children. Is the good father someone who listens to her? Sociologists say no. It is someone who will provide for her children. Someone who has the confidence to bring home the bacon.
Sociologists teach us while a man can produce thousands of sperm on repeated occasions throughout his adult life, a woman only has about 400 chances of producing a baby. As a result, they are looking for a man who can provide longevity and stability for their babies. A man who tells a woman he is a lawyer and not a paralegal will have a better chance of landing her. That is because she perceives that a lawyer is a better provider for her future children. But having a good income is not enough. A woman needs to perceive that a man is generous with his resources and will provide for her children. That is why women place such a high value on gifts such as jewelry.
This is something men may not understand about the engagement ring. The engagement ring is not just a romantic gesture, it is an outward display that a man will provide for the woman and her children. Thus she wants a large purchase.
Further, even though modern humans make more money from their brains than their brawn, women are still programmed to think of strength equaling the ability to provide. Thats why, even when there is evidence to the contrary, the woman is hardwired to choose the lineman over the computer geek.
So, men, learn from what the sociologists have taught us. Consider what thousands of years of history has programmed into your woman. When you do that, you will know what she really wants. Then give it to her.
About the Author:
Antonio MacGynn contributes to About the Family, a blog dedicated to family issues. He has learned that most broken relationships can be repaired, but can't be done without understanding the subconscious motivators that get couples together. Unfortunately, most people who want to repair their relationships instinctively do exactly the wrong thing. Avoid the wrong steps and Repair the Relationship.
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